This is probably the kind of post I should’ve done at the beginning of the year or end of last year, but if you’ve read some of my recent posts, you’ll know I haven’t been in the right headspace since late last year.
I had to take a break from blogging after I wrote my last post, to process a lot of anger and grief, and to reevaluate my whole life. During that period, I did a lot of journalling, and wrote a list of what I wanted more of in my life, and what I no longer needed.
| In | Out |
|---|---|
| Abundance | Bare minimum |
| Taking up space | Shrinking myself |
| Self-compassion | Shame |
| Asserting my needs and expressing my truth | People-pleasing |
| Happy little accidents | Perfectionism |
| Friends who truly support me | Friends who project their insecurities onto me |
| Friends with shared values | Forcing friendships with people who aren’t on the same wavelength as me |
| Feeling comfortable and confident in my own skin/body | Feeling ugly and undesirable |
| Staying grounded in who I am | Absorbing and internalising other people’s anxieties, insecurities, and projections |
| Trusting my knowledge and intuition | Presuming everyone else always knows better than me |
| Giving myself permission | Seeking validation and waiting for permission from others |
| Creating my own opportunities | Begging others for opportunities |
| Personal sovereignty | Giving up my agency |
What’s on your In and Out list?